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Hi! I’m Justin Raj, a stock broker by profession, is also a freelance Journalist, an amateur Filmmaker and an enthusiastic Marathoner who possesses the ‘bad habit’ of writing too much. And as long as that ‘bad habit’ stays with me, I keep on posting to my blog.

A blogger is basically a tech-savvy writer. He is a keen observer with a sharing mind, not a silent spectator to all events which happen around him. If a reader is a person who loves to gain knowledge, a blogger or writer is one who loves to share his knowledge and dare to speak out his opinions and ideas. Like a singer expresses by singing, dancer by dancing, actor through acting, a blogger blogs his feelings and ideas out. Literally, Freedom of Expression is his shield and the blog is his Sword.

Here in my blog, write-ups are archived in 9 labels. In ‘Sweet and Bitter’ you can read about my diverse life experiences and valuable lessons I learnt from it. ‘Published Articles’ offers you my articles which have been published in Daily Newspapers. In ‘Random Brain Waves’ you can meet up with my random (or at times, weird) ideas. Poetry writing has eventually become a new hobby as well as a part of my blog. You can read my poems in ‘Verses’. In ‘Marathon’ label, you can read about my marathon experiences, challenges and how running a marathon can shape a man’s life.

‘Vlog’ is a recent addition to my blog as I realize the potential future of visual media. Sometimes, a 3-minute video can do the magic of expression than a 3000 word article. In this label you can watch the short films, documentaries, advertisements et al I have made. ‘Favorite Articles’ consists of articles which have influenced my outlook and attitude on life. Being a tireless traveler, ‘Travel’ label takes you to various travel experiences of mine. Conducting researches is a part of Journalism. In ‘Research Articles’ label you can get articles which throw light on various researches I have conducted.

Every life meets with various challenges, diverse experiences and at the end, all those teach us valuable lessons for our future. Wise men learn by other men's mistakes, fools by their own said H. G. Bohn. I learn more by my own mistakes than others. It doesn’t mean that I’m a fool! I learn from other’s lives too. My blog is a platform for sharing not only my life experiences but also the valuable lessons, ideas and poetry triggered by them.

To my mind, blog is a thinking man's tool. Blogging is more a passion than a hobby for me. It is as if talking something to someone somewhere in world. My words keep on talking to the visitors of my blog. I can feel the magic of words! And that’s the power of blogging!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

How to outlive relationship disasters?

Every beginning has an end. It’s same with relationships too. In our life, relationships especially love relationships may always face a painful end. It blossoms with excitement, joy and delight but withers lifelessly and painfully. The days after a breakup seem like dark ages. We may get chucked hopeless and lost to the darkest corner of life. Everything seems like the end of the world.
Some gossip about their ex. Some cry out on their pillows. Some go aggressive on friends. But, only a few realize that it’s just a learning experience and life has to move on. Standing on one’s own feet not always been a child’s game. It requires great courage and determination.

There are lots of ways to wipe out break up blues. Take it positively and think of the ways for reconciliation. It’s always better if an open and candid talk can solve the issue. If the relationship breakup is mutually agreed upon, altering the environments should be your first step. Take out all the tangible possessions like photographs, gifts and letters you got from your ex out of sight.
You are entering a new phase in your life. Take time to think of new things which you haven’t done before in your life. It can be scuba diving, mountaineering or even bungee jumping. Visit your relatives, make contact with your old friends or arrange a party with them.
The pain of separation hurts, it hurts very badly. We may feel jealous of the ‘couples’ who roam freely and lovingly around us. Hundreds of inspirational books have been written to help people to survive relationship break ups. Pick some, read and try to absorb the words of wisdom. Don’t let yourself to be lonely. Always stir yourself to be socially active.
Movies and music are great anti-depressants. Watch funny movies like Friday, Austin Powers and Charlie’s angels. Songs like I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor, I Will Love Again by Laura Fabian, Stronger by Britney Spears, and Survivor by Destiny's Child may sooth your ears and reinforce you to sail through a break up.
Be honest with your feeling. If the break up happens because of your fault, accept it. Don’t try to repress your hurt feeling. If you feel like crying; cry. If you feel like ripping up a pillow; rip it up. All these never make you ‘weak’. They always help to make you stronger and wise.
Remember that there is not just one, "right person" in the world for any of us. If you think “you can’t live without someone”, you are just bringing down your self-respect and self-dependency. Time can heal any wounds in our heart. You can definitely survive relationship breakups and over time you can love again. And next time you will be a wiser person, a person who has benefited by experience and is now more capable of a successful relationship. An end can also be another beginning.


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