It’s heartbreakingly painful when your brother leaves to heavenly abode and after a few months your sweetheart leaves you for a better man…
Pain is everywhere. You can’t ask for a break from that! It happens somehow, somewhere and from someone.
Every day, at some moments, when we can’t get along with what we ought to do; in the silence and ignorance of your loved ones; when your loved ones compare us with others and tell they are better than you and moreover when they belittle you in front of others. In short, it feels like the whole universe throws you out like a fallen, lonely comet.
Only people who stand by you are your true friends who know you for a very long time and also know your potential, strength and weakness. They stand by you, whatever happens even though the earth shaken or mountains shift.
I have gone through all these in past 8 months. I lost my brother… I lost my sweetheart… It feels like life shoots you at the point blank range. All you hear are blaming, your mistakes are trumpeted and at last you are thrown out as an outcast.
I have realized that true friends and lovers stand the test of time. It was my true friends who stood by me, supported me and encouraged me to move forward.
My true friends include very important person, an old friend, my first love and I call her ‘girlfriend’; she is none other than my mom. An iron lady I know who have never tired, gave up or even complaint for the tests life has thrown on her. She withstood all with courage, patience and an incredible strength of heart.
She has suffered a lot in her life but courageously moved forward.
I’m extremely lucky that I have born to a mother like her. I’m very much proud to be her son.
After all disasters of my life only thing she told me is that: life is like a bicycle… you lose balance if you don’t move forward. It was a great message to a fallen, broken-hearted son from a great, loving mother.
After one month, one of my friends who is the city editor of a popular English daily, visited my house. During my college days, it was his writings that inspired me to write and start a blog.
Although a good creative writer, he is a very good listener himself: a good quality a journalist should possess. He is also an author-in-making and his book on a very important social issue is going to get published within months.
Over our favorite brandy, we talked and talked all through night under a nightclub ambience which I have created in my house. There were no breaks; only alcohol sips and nicotine inhales. It was really fun and inspiring to talk to a matured, experienced person like him.
He told me… life is like a train. The train has a destination - a state of attainment; a state of achievement. People who want to board the train can do so. No matter who enters or leaves the train, the train moves on and on. That journey is towards its destination. That journey is inevitable because it’s towards the train’s destination! People who want to be in train will stay and others just leave. The train story cum philosophy dominated our late night talks as well as a very memorable city ride.
Pain is essential like a jockey beats the horse during the race; only then the horse runs faster and wins the race. In this journey, life is the jockey and horse is our heart. Pain makes the heart and brain works faster and stays stronger. As a wise mind once told - wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.
Weak, ordinary people look down upon these metaphors and call them as mere ‘philosophy’ but in fact, only a few people use to think… thinking is, of course, a hard work!
What more is needed to a kiddo like me, to get inspired and motivated plus to leave the past and gear up for the future. It was the finest, drunken, motivational class for 48 hours!
Those are words of persons who have experienced more pain than I and stood up against all odds and moved on like a bicycle and a destination-bound train. And I’m so thankful to my life for blessing me with few sincere, mature, loving, wise people who are there for me to offer a hand to rise up whenever I fall.
Ups and downs are good because when we are up in life, our friends will know who we are and when we are down we will know who all are our true friends are…